Tits, Breasts, Boobs, Jugs, Tata's, Twins... Whatever you call them they are the mother of double standards!!! Take the image below for example: Both pictures show almost the exact same amount of boob but one is acceptable, even used to sell things and one is considered "wrong" or even "disgusting". Breastfeeding shaming NEEDS to stop!!!!
Breastfeeding is the reason we have breasts. PERIOD. It is the reason women were given them and men were not! We do not have them for men to look at, we do not have them to sell things. We have them to feed our babies! Yet so many woman are scorned and treated poorly if they breastfeed their children in public. "Cover up"! "My husband/son etc doesn't need to see that"! "OMG that's gross, can't you do that somewhere else...like the bathroom"?!?! These are just a few of the things that moms hear when they are trying to feed their hungry little one in public. I bet you NONE of the people who say these things to a breastfeeding woman go into Victoria's Secret when they are at the mall and tell them that their displays are disgusting and they should take them down!! So why would they say that to a mother feeding her child?? We need to wake up and STOP shaming moms!!!
I am currently breastfeeding my 3rd baby! She is 6 months old and EBF. I breastfed my first baby for 12 months and HATED breastfeeding him in public! I felt like I was doing something wrong and should cover up (my ex husband also didn't like me not using a cover in public so I felt like I had to). Have you ever eaten under a blanket?! It is NOT easy!! Not to mention it's hot under there and if the baby unlatches while your milk is letting down you can't see and end up spraying them with milk! When I had my second baby I was a little more adventurous and stopped using the cover but still felt like I was doing something wrong. Now with my third baby I will breastfeed anywhere, anytime and I DARE someone to say something to me.
I woke up a few weeks ago to texts from a friend of mine who has a morning radio show, she wanted to call me on air to talk about breastfeeding in public. You can hear my interview below!
Being a new mom is HARD!!! Babies don't come with an instruction manual and the last thing a new mom needs is to feel ashamed while feeding their baby away from home!! Especially when they are feeding them the way god intended!
So many new moms tell me that they are scared to breastfeed in public, that they have anxiety over it. THAT IS AWFUL! No mother should have to feel that way! It makes me happy to hear that I inspire them to not be ashamed to nurse their babies in public! It hurts my heart to hear stories in the news about strangers hassling moms for breastfeeding. To all the mama's out there breastfeeding your babies I want to tell you that I'M PROUD OF YOU!!! KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!! I SUPPORT YOU!!! Breastfeeding is beautiful and amazing and making milk is YOUR superpower!!!
Breastfeeding is HARD on it's own!! Only you can feed your baby, some breastfed babies (like all 3 of mine) never took a bottle! Your boobs are swollen, painful and they LEAK! Breastfed babies don't sleep through the night as easily as formula fed babies, you have to watch what you eat or drink like when you were pregnant. For those of us who practice extended breastfeeding this all can last for a few years! It's physically demanding and EXHAUSTING!! But SO worth it!!
However, we choose to breastfeed because the benefits of breast milk are AMAZING for BOTH mom and baby!!! If you think breastfeeding is wrong or gross then the list below is for you!
1. A healthier baby
"The incidences of pneumonia, gastrointestinal infections like diarrhea colds and viruses are reduced among breastfed babies,"
2. Long-term protection, too
Breastfeed your baby and you reduce his risk of developing chronic conditions, such as type I diabetes, celiac disease and Crohn's disease.
3. Stronger bones
Women who breastfeed have a lower risk of postmenopausal osteoporosis. "When a woman is pregnant and lactating, her body absorbs calcium much more efficiently," "So while some bones, particularly those in the spine and hips, may be a bit less dense at weaning, six months later, they are more dense than before pregnancy."
4. Lower SIDS risk
Breastfeeding lowers your baby's risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome by about HALF.
5. Fewer problems with weight
It's more likely that neither of you will become obese if you breastfeed him.
6. A calorie incinerator
You may have heard that nursing burns up to 500 calories a day. And that's almost right. "Breast milk contains 20 calories per ounce. "If you feed your baby 20 ounces a day, that's 400 calories you've swept out of your body."
7. It's good for the earth
Dairy cows, which are raised in part to make infant formula, are a significant contributor to global warming: Their belching, manure and flatulence (really!) spew enormous amounts of methane, a harmful greenhouse gas, into the atmosphere.
8. Better healing postdelivery
The oxytocin released when your baby nurses helps your uterus contract, reducing postdelivery blood loss. Plus, breastfeeding will help your uterus return to its normal size more quickly—at about six weeks postpartum, compared with 10 weeks if you don't breastfeed.
9. Less risk of cancer
Breastfeeding can decrease your baby's risk of some childhood cancers. And you'll have a lower risk of premenopausal breast cancer and ovarian cancer, an often deadly disease that's on the rise. Breast milk has been found to kill over 40 types of cancerous cells!!!!
10. An unmatched feeling of power
It's empowering as a new mother to see your baby grow and thrive on your breast milk alone. Making breast milk truly is a superpower!!!
11. A custom-made supply
Formula isn't able to change its constitution, but your breast milk morphs to meet your baby's changing needs. Colostrum—the "premilk" that comes in after you deliver—is chock-full of antibodies to protect your newborn baby. It's also higher in protein and lower in sugar than 'full' milk, so even a small amount can hold off your baby's hunger.
When your full milk comes in (usually three to four days after delivery), it is higher in both sugar and volume than colostrum—again, just what your baby requires. He needs a lot of calories and frequent feedings to fuel his rapid growth. Your mature milk is designed to be digested quickly so he'll eat often.
12. A menstruation vacation
Breastfeeding your baby around the clock—no bottles or formula— will delay ovulation, which means delayed menstruation. Breastfeeding causes the release of prolactin, which keeps estrogen and progesterone at bay so ovulation isn't triggered.
Even if you do breastfeed exclusively, your prolactin levels will eventually drop over the course of several months. Many moms who solely nurse will see their periods return between six and eight months after delivery, others don't for a full year.
13. Less time off work
Your baby will be ill less often, so that means fewer sick days for you.
14. It's FREE!
According to La Leche League International, the cost of formula can range anywhere from $134 to $491 per month. That's $1,608 to $5,892 in one year! OMG!! Other then the costs of your pump (which most insurance plans cover) bottles and nursing pads breastfeeding is free!
15. A great way to learn about your baby
"You have to read your baby's 'satiety cues' a little better, because unlike with a bottle, you can't see how much he's eaten."You have to rely on your own instincts and your baby's behavior to know when your baby is full."
16. There's nothing more convient
Simply pull up your shirt and nurse. Breast milk is always available and always at the right temperature.
17. Benefits for all
According to a study published in the journal Pediatrics, the United States would save about $13 billion per year in medical costs if 90 percent of U.S. families breastfed their newborns for at least six months.
So mamas pull those Tata's out and proudly feed your babies ANYWHERE, ANYTIME YOU DAMN WELL PLEASE!!!
DID YOU KNOW?? There are actually breastfeeding LAWS in place now to protect us! Each state has their own, I live in Ohio so mine is below! Just google "Breastfeeding Law" and your state.
Public Breastfeeding Law: A mother is entitled to breast-feed her baby in any location of a place of public accommodation wherein the mother otherwise is permitted. “Place of public accommodation” has the same meaning as in section 4112.01 of the Revised Code.
*Please note* This blog is ONLY intended to support breastfeeding mothers NOT to offend Formula Feeding mothers. How you feed your baby is YOUR decision. Mom shaming of ANY kind NEEDS to stop!!!